This post originally appeared on The Co-Op, a blog of young(ish) writers of varying ideological and political perspectives. 
On Saturday I attended a BWB Conversations event with the author of Being Chinese: A New Zealander’s Story”
 Helene Wong and film-maker Roseanne Liang. Amongst discussion about 
what it means to be a Chinese-New Zealander, assimilation and 
integration of immigrants, and speaking out against microaggressions, 
there was one narrative that struck a chord with me. When asked about 
how we can build better connections between minority groups and with the
 majority Pakeha, Helene said that the key was for people to interact 
with each other and work together. Just talking to each other can be 
enough to humanise each other, to overcome an innate human distrust of 
the different, to see that we are all humans first and white or black or
 brown or yellow or red second.
In the wake of Brexit, this is very relevant and important. An ugly 
xenophobic racist streak has reared its head in recent months in the UK 
and US, and while it has always existed in the undercurrent, that 
dangerous mentality has captured enough people to achieve material 
change. Many commentators have said that the Remain campaign failed to 
strike an emotional chord with the populace, that experts were 
successfully characterised as elitist by the Leave campaign, that the 
Leave campaign were able to build a better narrative that went beyond 
rationality and spoke to the electorate.
Perhaps there is something to be said about how the Remain campaign 
actually communicated with people. Did they rely on mass media 
advertising and debates trying to be efficient, reaching many people at 
once, or did they actually go into the communities and talk in person, 
reaching only a few people or only one person at once? I understand that
 talking to small groups of people is expensive, in that political 
campaigning costs time and money and both of these are only available in
 limited quantities. But there is something about a one-hour debate on 
television that becomes inaccessible for the disadvantaged and 
disenfranchised.
There are lessons to be learnt from Brexit as the sentiment expressed
 by the Leave voters sweeps across the rest of Europe, across the United
 States, and even down in little old New Zealand. We’re going to see 
increasing interest from immigrants and refugees because we are damn 
lucky to be living in a pretty great country. How we deal with that 
speaks about who we are as a country, whether we are a country that 
welcomes people with open arms and gives everyone a fair go, or a 
country that prejudges people who look and sound different to the rest 
of us and puts policies in place to keep them out. We have seen from our
 politicians, from all sides of the spectrum, that our country may be heading down the second path.
There is a common tendency for social progressives to just shut out 
those who don’t agree. Everyone has a story of how they tried to call 
someone out on being racist or sexist or homophobic or otherwise 
offensive and had it backfire miserably. We learn from these experiences
 and argue that there are some people whose opinions cannot be changed 
and in the interests of our own mental welfare we should not bother to 
engage with them. Never read the comments is a common mantra, but that 
only allows the ill-informed, the misguided, and the offensive to 
continue perpetuating their views. We cannot keep shouting from our 
ivory towers, hope that the media amplify those voices, and then hope 
for that to equate to real change. The message has to be taken to the 
people, not projected at the people. It is not enough to just call them 
uneducated, uncultured, or impoverished and to just ignore them.
That means we have to get out of our echo chambers and go to where 
these other people are. We have to comment on the Herald’s posts on 
Facebook and the Stuff comment threads, we have to physically visit 
community groups and iwi, and we have to argue with our racist uncles at
 family dinners. That’s where “the other people” are, the ones who vote 
and happen to be in the majority. We have to go out of our way to say 
“that’s not okay” and seek to educate people. It’s not easy. It takes a 
lot of effort and pain, but it’s what we have to do to move away from 
the path we are on. It’s not something that we can just leave to the 
political parties or academic experts or business leaders. It’s not 
enough to just hope that those views will phase out over time; we need 
to give that change a nudge.
Helene Wong said two things in particular that resonated strongly 
with me. The first was a metaphor: that in our society now Pakeha are 
the sky and the minorities are the clouds. There are many clouds, of 
different shapes and sizes, but they only exist against the aerial 
landscape of the majority. We should strive to live in a society where 
we are all clouds, Pakeha included, co-operating and co-existing amongst
 a common sky. The second thing she said was that we have to be brave. I
 believe we have to speak up, and cannot just be apathetic, because 
apathy is what leads to the strengthening of existing power structures 
until they can no longer be fixed.
Kaua e mate wheke mate ururoa. Do not give up; no matter how hard the struggle is, keep fighting.